“Buy a house they say!?”

“Let’s buy a house”…

Last night Tristan and I were lying in bed and chatting about our day, work & the kids as we always do. This time the conversation was different. We are both so stressed. We are both so tired. We sat there eating the kids ‘Bar One’ stash from the sweety draw, sipping our Coca Cola and totally felt sorry for ourselves.

We have been told that building a house is no fun & games, but honestly, the last few weeks as part of the build up of moving has been stress vibes to the absolute next level! We have moved our moving date out by a week because the contractors are just not finished. There are things that we see every time we go to site that we add to the snag list of what needs to be fixed or re-done and it just feels like our list keeps growing and our stress levels keep climbing.

So, we spoke, we vented, we moaned and moaned some more. We stopped to appreciate how great the Bar One was at 09:00Opm at night and then came to a conclusion.

Tristan’s ask to me: “Love, know that I’m highly strung, stressed and short. I’m trying not to be but I’m struggling. Please just understand it’s not about you. Please just be there for me so we can get through this together over the next few weeks.”

My ask to Tristan” “Tris, we have sent out our snag lists. We have raised our concerns and stressing like we have been just hasn’t been helping. I’m short, you are short and it sucks. It doesn’t make a difference to worry at this stage. Now we need to trust the process. All we can control is packing up our current home. Focus on work and the kids and wait for moving day. Once we are in, we can start snagging again and get the guys to fix what is wrong. Our big worries are being addressed and we know the guys are working on it. Now we wait. We can’t control what we can’t control”.

THIS MOMENT RIGHT HERE makes all the difference. Talking to your partner. Being a partner when the person you love needs you. Being heard and creating a space for being heard. Has the stress miraculously disappeared?? No! But the late-night chocolate munchies and talk absolutely helped.

Tomorrow is another day 🖤 . . .